Monday, April 27, 2009

On Gender Roles in Homosexual Relationships

Palagi akong natatanong: "Sino ang babae sa inyong dalawa?"

At iisa lang naman ang sagot ko palagi, "Ay, mas malandi akoh!" Oo, may "H" yung 'ako', kasi nga malandi nga ako.

In fairness naman sakin, pinangangatawanan ko naman ang statement kong yan....

...

Actually, misleading ang huling statement, kasi ko naman siya 'pinangangatawanan' by choice. Malandi lang talaga ako. PERIOD.

But I digress...

Hindi naman nasagot ang tanong.... Ang tanong e kung sino sa amin (between Christian and I) ang babae?



Sa totoo lang, hindi ko alam kung paano sasagutin ang tanong na yan...

Una: wala naman sa aming babae. Pareho kaming lalaki. Pareho kaming bakla. SO wala talagang babae; wala sa amin ang may kepyas, at wala sa amin ang may matres.

Pangalawa: Ano ba ang ibig sabihin ng pagiging babae sa isang relasyon? Sa kama, madali lang: top si Christian, bottom ako (alam nyo na yun, malalaki na kayo). There's the rare occassion na nagbabaliktad, but most of the time, ganun kame. Pero yun lang ba ang ibig sabihin ng pagiging babae sa isang relasyon?

Traditionally (meaning in a patriarchal set-up) the feminine role involves management of the household, taking care of the family, in short service with extra TLC. The masculine role involves mainly security (the one who brings in the money, defender of the home, etc etc).

But this distinction has been blurred ever since the women woke up and found themselves powerful; when the world woke up and saw the men as abusive.



In a relationship between two men... wouldn't you expect the roles to be more blurred? As each posseses characteristics from both the traditional male and female roles, how can one delineate the roles in a homosexual relationship?

In fact, a more relevant question would be: Are roles still relevant in a relationship (not just homosexual but heterosexual as well)?

So ask me again: sino ang babae sa amin ni Christian?



Ang tamang sagot: wala! Walang babae; pareho kaming bakla; pareho kaming lalaki na nagmamahal ng kapwa lalaki; pareho naming inaalagaan ang isa't isa; pareho namin sinusuportahan ang isa't isa.

Though just to set the record straight, mas malandi akoh!

mwah!

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