A few days ago Tyra had a feature on Gay for Pay (straight men posing to be gay for money). And as useless, it got me thinking...
Just to set things straight (so to speak) lemme site what the ever-reliable (yuh!) Wiki has to say:
Gay-for-pay is a term used more commonly with male (and, less frequently, female) actors, pornographic stars, or sex workers that identify as heterosexual but are paid to act or perform gay professionally. The term has also applied to other professions and even companies with the same core concerns and criticism in place. The stigma of being gay or labeled as such has steadily eroded since the Stonewall riots began the modern gay rights movement in 1969. Through the 1990s, mainstream movie and television actors have been more willing to portray homosexuality, as the threat of any backlash against their careers has lessened and society's acceptance of gay and lesbian people has increased.Here's the complete episode (thanks to to Megami 284 for uploading):
Interviewee is Kurt Wild, claims he's straight but openly admits having sex with men on video for money.
1. Kurt is soooooooooooo cute. I just can't stp staring at his beautiful face!
2. Kurt gives a nice anecdote on how being a porn star affects his personal life (ie getting fired from Subway)
3. Tyra cites that being bottom does not necessarily correspond to being gay because this does not involve having an erection. (refreshing POV but quite arguable)
1. Kurt was just waay too nervous, defensive, and incoherent. REALLY, his interview was a bit of a waste
2. I feel like Tyra's attacking Kurt personally and the producers keep on inserting audience shots with negative facial expressions whenever they talk about Kurt being straight doing gay porn (REALLY suggestive juxtaposition, don't you think?)
Interview with Aaron, also a 'straight' gay pornstar (who apparently has done scenes with Kurt) gives more straight forward answers and is more coherent.
1. He makes good arguments in defense of their careers: Gay porn pays better than straight porn...
2. Aaron gives good answers to arousal query: viagra and straight porn. (though I personally feel that THIS one is quite hard to swing...)
3. The best part of this segment is when Tyra talks to the mom. She's probably one of the sweetest moms ever! I just love what she said about how while she does not necessarily approve of her son's chosen career, on the other hand she accepts her son for who he s and for everything that he does that makes him happy.
4. Aaron is just waaaaayy to HOTT!!!
1. Tyra, tyra why are you attacking your guests? too much negativity when it comes to your guests' sexuality! what gives?
SIDEBAR: Aaron was also featured in MTV's True Life also for being Gay for Pay. watch it here.
Bartenders! hmmm.... boring. Their jobs are less incriminating than the porn stars... I mean, c'mon: serving cocktails vs M2M sex! where's the comparison?
This gives the audience , though, a look at the scope of the term Gay for Pay (that it doesn't alsways involve SEX)
An online model... this one is interesting but the man is just BLAND.
Love his girlfriend though. I quite agree with her when she says no one can do this type of work w/o being a little bisexual.
Girl exposes that she's also bisexual and fools round with girls. (WTF!?!) BUT she claims, in terms of hetero relations, she is only exclusive to his bf and he to her. I don't know how to say this but... that is just WHACKED!
AND finally, people who have strong opinions about the negative implications of gay for pay jobs...
Here's what I think of the three:
Matt Sanchez (ex military, ex gay porn star) says gay for pay PORN will eventually haunt one in his latter years and might live to regret the things that one did. I agree... though this may NOT apply to the entire gamut of gay for pay careers (ie bartending)
Sean Kennedy (editor of Gay Publication The Advocate) says that Gay for Pay is detrimental to the community... That gays seek a watering hole where they can be safe and free from discrimination.. at the same time, Gay for Pay dudes reap the benefits of gay money and does not have to deal with all the issues when they punch out
Andy (an ex porn girl) also said that working in the industry is detrimental to the individual as it often leads to destructive activities/tendecies (ie drugs, etc etc) [hmmm... okay.]
The episode apparently raises 2 major questions:
1. Is gay for pay a bad thing? how does this affect the community?
2. Can a man really be gay for pay (play homo and still be straight)?
The show's bias on the abovementioned issues are, I would think, quite obvious. All you have to do is listen to the venom in Tyra's voice and the look at the glare on the audience's eyes...
MY THOUGHTS (DISCLAIMER: opinion lang po ito...)
on the nature of gay for pay
I think that opening the episode with pornstars has the tendency to overwhelm the audience's perecption on the whole gay for pay realm. As the definition earlier clearly states, the term covers a wide gamut of careers.
Whether or not pretending to be gay for money (or as a profession) is a bad thing, I'm honestly at the gray area. Was Kurt and Aaron's careers a bad move? I'm inclined to say yes BUT... solely on the basis that they are involved in the sex industry and NOT because they pretend to be gay. I feel that what they are doing is WRONG primarily because it is PORN. Matt, Sean, and Andy has good ideas about how PORN affects individuals.
However, I feel that PRETENDING to be gay (if only as a profession) does not necessarily mean it's a bad thing...
Acting, I would say, is one of the major careers that fall into this. How many 'straight' actors have we known portray gay characters? And yet, when gay folks see these films, the actors are, for the most part, celebrated (though sometime ridiculed). Just think of Sean Penn and James Franco in Milk, Jake Gyllenhall and Heath Ledger in Brokeback Mountain, Diego Luna and Gael Garcia Bernal in Y Tu Mama Tambien.
Most gay films usually have (moralistically) good things to say about/to gay people. And for that the actors are not shunned, they are celebrated for taking on such 'challenging' roles...
If this is so, then why scorn the bartender? It is of course his job to flirt (and gays enjoy flirting, I know I do, just for the fun of it) so he can make tips. As for the porn star, having sex is, well distasteful as it may be, his job. And why should people judge him when they know hat they are selling is a fantasy?
I agree with Matt and Andy's opinions about porn. But, again, that goes for porn alone... not for gay for pay...
Aaron, also raised a good point: people (in general) have problems with gay for pay because they have problems with homosexuals... Quite true. Because really, if we go right down to it, gay for pay is just good acting.
As for Sean's claim about the community's outrage for gay for pays, well, I'm not sure if it is real. Again, we all know that what these people are doing are their JOBS. People should at least have enough sense of mind NOT to fall for it.
I also don't feel that Gay for Pays don't get to deal with the gay issues when they punch out. Like it or not, the gays' reality is the base of their livelihood. SO whatever affects the community affects these workers like a bad batch of feed affects a flock and by extension the farmer. Kurt shows this clearly with his Subway anecdote
on the sexuality of individuals involved in gay for pay
The extent of 'pretention' to be gay highly depends on the job. For the bar tender, it is perfectly understandable that they could be straight. They are just mixing drinks for crying out loud! A person can be surrounded by gay people and remain straight! It's not like we cary the ebola!
HOWEVER, as for the porn stars, I am inclined to agree with the model's GF. I feel that you CAN'T be involved sexually with another man and NOT be bi at the slightest... It's just philosophically impossible for me when SEX is the very basis for one's gayness! right?
It's kinda related to the misconstrued and much fable 'gay-straight' relationship. And I take the same stand: how can a gay person get a 'straight' lover? If he's straight, he won't be able to get it on for another dude in the first place! But I'll talk about that separately.
Same with the porn star. Even with videos and viagra, it would take much more to get the penis erect especially with the bothering bussle of filming... As for bottoming, yes, it may not involve getting hard, but getting penetrated (especially when done repeatedly) takes more than 'zoning out'.
While Dr Margie Holmes may say that 'anal stimulation is normal for both straight people as well', I feel that it is common among straight people (especially men) to feel that being anally penetrated is the epitome of being violated (as a man). And if it is that 'unpleasurable' for a straight man, I would find it hard to believe if he can stand to do it for a living and remain straight...
As for Tyra, I'd say she still needs a lot of work on hosting... love hr as a model, but she really just looks so PLASTIC when she hots and feign that faux concern and sympathy... oh well, she's no Oprah, that's for sure.
What are your thoughts, dear readers?